Veronica and David become parents

Find out how Veronica and David are teaching their adopted son about his black and ethnic minority heritage

Veronica and David become parents

Veronica and David adopted their son Ethan through Coram in 2017.

David says: “We went along to Coram’s open event and what struck us was how honest they were. I suppose I had an old-fashioned view of what adoption was about and Coram was realistic about what these children have been through.”

Adopting a child with the same cultural heritage

As black adoptive parents, Veronica and David felt it was important to adopt a child of African or Caribbean descent so they would be best placed to understand and promote the child’s cultural heritage as they grew up.

Veronica and David said that their social worker at Coram was “excellent at preparing us and had a good sense of what we wanted.” They started to look at profiles and remember seeing Ethan’s profile but tried not to get their hopes up too much at that point. However, Ethan’s social worker made an enquiry with the couple shortly after and things developed fairly quickly from there, with the process taking around a year altogether and the adoption going through in 2017.

The couple said that Coram’s approach and training was very thorough and they felt prepared at every stage. This includes Ethan’s transition from foster care. He had been with the same foster carer since he was taken into care at four days old, and Veronica and David were aware of potential attachment issues. Their social worker helped them through this time and the preparation they’d received from Coram had given them a “really good grounding.”

A happy, healthy boy

Ethan was 15 months old when he was adopted, and Veronica and David said he settled in very well, bonding very quickly with them.

David says: “Ethan is getting on fine and his development is coming on leaps and bounds. His speech is coming on really well; he’s imaginative and loves playing. He is a happy healthy little boy.”

Whilst they haven’t accessed any post-adoption support yet, Veronica and David say they are aware of the support available and know it’s there if they need it. They have also kept in touch with parents who adopted at Coram at a similar time so have a support network available.

Encouraging other black and ethnic minority adopters

Veronica and David feel that adoptive parents can play an important role in being an advocate for adoption and encouraging others to come forward to find out more about adopting, particularly amongst the black and ethnic minority communities.

Veronica says: “Adopting a black child was important to us. We feel very comfortable to teach our son about his heritage and are best placed to support him with any challenges and issues.

“In our culture there tends to be a focus on getting married and having children and if any issues come up with this, adoption isn’t something that’s always considered. I think we need to dispel myths around adoption. There are children who need a home and there are regular people out there ready to adopt. I think that’s something that everyone in our communities could resonate with.

Ethan has completed our family and it’s about letting others know that they can have this experience too.”

Could you adopt?

If you believe you can offer one or more child the time, love and commitment they require to grow up feeling safe and happy, we would love to hear from you.

Please get in touch on 020 7520 0383 or email us at adoption@coram.org.uk.

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